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#* However, this doesn't mean that you should turn a blind eye to evidence of bad behavior. Obvious warning signs — mysterious texts that cause him to cancel your dinner plans with no explanation, for instance — warrant investigation.
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#* However, this doesn't mean that you should turn a blind eye to evidence of bad behavior. Obvious warning signs — mysterious texts that cause him to cancel your dinner plans with no explanation, for instance — warrant investigation.
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#Be open about your expectations. It's important to lay down reasonable expectations for each spouse as early in the relationship as possible.<ref>https://ift.tt/2NB6IeS> This way, if someone behaves badly, you can clearly point out exactly how your trust has been betrayed. This is especially important if your expectations of your partner differ significantly from the "norm" (i.e., he should not cheat on you, flirt with other people, and so on). It is crucial if you have shared responsibilities (like child care).[[Image:Trust Your Husband Step 5 Version 2.jpg|center]]
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#Be open about your expectations. It's important to lay down reasonable expectations for each spouse as early in the relationship as possible.<ref>https://ift.tt/2NB6IeS> This way, if someone behaves badly, you can clearly point out exactly how your trust has been betrayed. This is especially important if your expectations of your partner differ significantly from the "norm" (i.e., he should not cheat on you, flirt with other people, and so on). It is crucial if you have shared responsibilities (like child care).[[Image:Trust Your Husband Step 5 Version 2.jpg|center]]
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#* If you haven't already, have an honest discussion with your partner that outlines your expectations for each other. Be prepared to speak up about things in your relationship that aren't working, but make the conversation about what you feel, rather than what you suspect he is doing. For example, you might say, "When you're always late home, I feel as though I'm not important to you." Approaching it this way gives him the opportunity to see how you're affected without being accused, which may lead to confrontation.
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#* If you haven't already, have an honest discussion with your partner that outlines your expectations for each other. Be prepared to speak up about things in your relationship that aren't working, but make the conversation about what you feel, rather than what you suspect he is doing. For example, you might say, "When you're always late home, I feel as though I'm not important to you." Approaching it this way gives him the opportunity to see how you're affected without being accused, which may lead to confrontation.
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=== Trusting After You've Been Betrayed ===
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=== Trusting After You've Been Betrayed ===
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#Clearly explain to him how he has betrayed your trust. Your first objective after a betrayal is to think about how you will communicate to your husband that he has shaken your trust. Here, as above, you'll want to focus on how his actions made you ''feel'' rather than making personal attacks. However, since in this case he has deliberately done something to hurt you, you don't need to stay perfectly calm. It's only reasonable to get emotional — especially if he has done something truly disrespectful.<ref>https://www.loveisrespect.org/content/building-trust-after-cheating/</ref>[[Image:Trust Your Husband Step 6 Version 2.jpg|center]]
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#Clearly explain to him how he has betrayed your trust. Your first objective after a betrayal is to think about how you will communicate to your husband that he has shaken your trust. Here, as above, you'll want to focus on how his actions made you ''feel'' rather than making personal attacks. However, since in this case he has deliberately done something to hurt you, you don't need to stay perfectly calm. It's only reasonable to get emotional — especially if he has done something truly disrespectful.<ref>https://www.loveisrespect.org/content/building-trust-after-cheating/</ref>[[Image:Trust Your Husband Step 6 Version 2.jpg|center]]
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