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#Drink water. This can help to calm you. Follow this with deep breathing to calm any racing feelings and fast breathing. Sit somewhere quiet and peaceful, to recover your thoughts.[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 1.jpg|center]]
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#Drink water. This can help to calm you. Follow this with deep breathing to calm any racing feelings and fast breathing. Sit somewhere quiet and peaceful, to recover your thoughts.<ref>https://ift.tt/31T53qU>[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 1.jpg|center]]
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#Divert your mind. Try to think about things that you care about or that are coming up soon. Are there any exciting things going on? Planning a cool trip soon? By trying to focus on the things that are good in your life, it can help to place the argument into perspective.[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 2.jpg|center]]
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#Divert your mind. Try to think about things that you care about or that are coming up soon. Are there any exciting things going on? Planning a cool trip soon? By trying to focus on the things that are good in your life, it can help to place the argument into perspective.[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 2.jpg|center]]
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#Remind yourself that everyone has misunderstandings and differences. Conflict is a normal part of being human and it is important to learn how to handle conflict maturely and considerately as you grow up. Consider learning how to respond to criticism, and how to use persuasion to turn a no into a yes, and how to gain compromises. These are far more constructive ways to resolve your issues than fighting.[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 3.jpg|center]]
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#Remind yourself that everyone has misunderstandings and differences. Conflict is a normal part of being human and it is important to learn how to handle conflict maturely and considerately as you grow up. Consider learning how to respond to criticism, and how to use persuasion to turn a no into a yes, and how to gain compromises. These are far more constructive ways to resolve your issues than fighting.<ref>https://ift.tt/2ODjBar>[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 3.jpg|center]]
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#Think in your parents' shoes. Why do you think that they did what they did? For example, there's probably a reason you can't go to that late-night movie. If you try to perceive their reasons for stopping you from doing something or for insisting that you do something you don't want to, it may help you to work through the longer term consequences and to see that their experience is actually being used to help, not hinder, you.[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 4.jpg|center]]
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#Think in your parents' shoes. Why do you think that they did what they did? For example, there's probably a reason you can't go to that late-night movie. If you try to perceive their reasons for stopping you from doing something or for insisting that you do something you don't want to, it may help you to work through the longer term consequences and to see that their experience is actually being used to help, not hinder, you.<ref>https://ift.tt/2ODjBar>[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 4.jpg|center]]
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#Let your parents cool down, as well. You'll just get yourself into more trouble if you try to explain your opinion when they're still mad. When everyone is in a heightened state of tension and anger, it's best that everyone gets the space to calm down and then come back and resolve the matter later.[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 5.jpg|center]]
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#Let your parents cool down, as well. You'll just get yourself into more trouble if you try to explain your opinion when they're still mad. When everyone is in a heightened state of tension and anger, it's best that everyone gets the space to calm down and then come back and resolve the matter later.<ref>https://ift.tt/30TPCxj>[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 5.jpg|center]]
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#Speak to the issue in a mature and responsible way. Use the "I feel" statement. For example: "I feel... when... because...". Say this without any essence of anger. It allows you to express your concerns without stating blame or refusal to accept your need to be responsible in the resolution.[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 6.jpg|center]]
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#Speak to the issue in a mature and responsible way. Use the "I feel" statement. For example: "I feel... when... because...". Say this without any essence of anger. It allows you to express your concerns without stating blame or refusal to accept your need to be responsible in the resolution.<ref>https://ift.tt/30TPCxj>[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 6.jpg|center]]
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#*Can you think of a suitable compromise that they might be willing to agree to? For example, go to the early evening movie rather than the late evening one? Go out with a group instead of just a boyfriend? And so forth...
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#*Can you think of a suitable compromise that they might be willing to agree to? For example, go to the early evening movie rather than the late evening one? Go out with a group instead of just a boyfriend? And so forth...
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#Solve your problem without crying. Though crying sometimes helps, crying in front of your parents will lead them in the wrong direction. After a time, crying is simply unhelpful because it fails to resolve things and it isn't meant to be a manipulative tool; it's for getting over the worst of how you feel, then letting you start over, afresh.[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 7.jpg|center]]
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#Solve your problem without crying. Though crying sometimes helps, crying in front of your parents will lead them in the wrong direction. After a time, crying is simply unhelpful because it fails to resolve things and it isn't meant to be a manipulative tool; it's for getting over the worst of how you feel, then letting you start over, afresh.<ref>https://ift.tt/30TPCxj>[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 7.jpg|center]]
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#Give it rest for awhile. If you discover that your parents still don't understand you, leave the topic. It is probably just getting worse by going on about it while the anger and tension is still fresh. Perhaps give it a month or two before raising it again, and do so on a very different way that shows you've learned your lesson and have come up with alternative solutions likely to meet with their agreement instead.[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 8.jpg|center]]
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#Give it rest for awhile. If you discover that your parents still don't understand you, leave the topic. It is probably just getting worse by going on about it while the anger and tension is still fresh. Perhaps give it a month or two before raising it again, and do so on a very different way that shows you've learned your lesson and have come up with alternative solutions likely to meet with their agreement instead.[[Image:Cool Down when You're Mad at Your Parents Step 8.jpg|center]]
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* [[Stop Giving Attitude to Your Mom]]
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* [[Stop Giving Attitude to Your Mom]]
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* [[Stop Fighting with Your Father]]
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* [[Stop Fighting with Your Father]]
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