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#*If she is really upset, try just murmuring, “It’s okay” or “I’m here for you” until she calms down a little.
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#*If she is really upset, try just murmuring, “It’s okay” or “I’m here for you” until she calms down a little.
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#*You can also comfort her by validating her feelings. You could try, “I’d be really upset if my boss said that to me, too. I really empathize with you.”
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#*You can also comfort her by validating her feelings. You could try, “I’d be really upset if my boss said that to me, too. I really empathize with you.”
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#Ask questions to show that you’re listening. This is one of the most important parts of being a good listener. Let your sister know that you are really hearing her by responding to her with questions about what she’s going through. Keep your tone gentle, though, so that she doesn’t feel like you’re grilling her.<ref>https://ift.tt/2Pxnoov>
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#Ask questions to show that you’re listening. This is one of the most important parts of being a good listener. Let your sister know that you are really hearing her by responding to her with questions about what she’s going through. Keep your tone gentle, though, so that she doesn’t feel like you’re grilling her.<ref>https://ift.tt/2Pxnoov>
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#*Say, “What exactly did Taylor do that is making you so upset? I want to make sure I understand what you’re dealing with.”
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#*Say, “What exactly did Taylor do that is making you so upset? I want to make sure I understand what you’re dealing with.”
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#Let her know you will help them if they want. Sometimes people just want to cry it out, but in some situations, they might want your advice or assistance. You can say, “How can I help you?” You can also be more specific and say, “It seems like you need some help around the house. Do you want me to drop off some groceries for you?”<ref>https://ift.tt/2E3LEZN>
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#*Only offer to help if you genuinely meant it.
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#*Only offer to help if you genuinely meant it.
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#*Don’t be offended if she doesn’t want or need your help. Comforting her is also helpful.
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#*Don’t be offended if she doesn’t want or need your help. Comforting her is also helpful.
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#Sit quietly by her side if she doesn’t want to talk. Sometimes people just want company when they’re upset. If your sister seems reluctant to talk, just be near her until she feels better. You can sit right next to her or even just be in the same room.<ref>https://ift.tt/2Pxnoov>
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#*Try saying, “I get that you don’t feel like talking. I’ll just hang out with you until you feel a little better.”
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===Cheering Your Sister Up===
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===Cheering Your Sister Up===
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#Offer her a hug. Sometimes physical touch can make a world of difference to someone who is upset. If you and your sister are physically affectionate, reach out and give her a good hug. If you know she sometimes doesn’t like to be touched, try to respect that. Ask her before going in for the hug.<ref>https://ift.tt/38qDysm>
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#Offer her a hug. Sometimes physical touch can make a world of difference to someone who is upset. If you and your sister are physically affectionate, reach out and give her a good hug. If you know she sometimes doesn’t like to be touched, try to respect that. Ask her before going in for the hug.<ref>https://ift.tt/38qDysm>
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#Do a physical activity to work through the stress. Exercise is a great way to deal with negative emotions. Suggest getting up and moving around. Just make sure to pick something that’s in her comfort zone so that you don’t cause her more stress.<ref>https://ift.tt/2E3LEZN>
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#Do a physical activity to work through the stress. Exercise is a great way to deal with negative emotions. Suggest getting up and moving around. Just make sure to pick something that’s in her comfort zone so that you don’t cause her more stress.<ref>https://ift.tt/2E3LEZN>
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#*For example, if your sister has asthma, don’t ask her to go for a challenging run. Instead say, “I found a great new yoga studio. Do you want to go stretch it out and forget your worries for an hour?”
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#*For example, if your sister has asthma, don’t ask her to go for a challenging run. Instead say, “I found a great new yoga studio. Do you want to go stretch it out and forget your worries for an hour?”
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#Go out for a treat together. Grabbing a bite to eat can be a simple way to help your sister feel better. Maybe as kids you
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#Go out for a treat together. Grabbing a bite to eat can be a simple way to help your sister feel better. Maybe as kids you two enjoyed ice cream. Offer to take her out for a scoop!<ref>https://ift.tt/2E3LEZN>
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#*If you enjoy cooking, offer to cook her favorite dish. Better yet, cook a meal together!
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#*If you enjoy cooking, offer to cook her favorite dish. Better yet, cook a meal together!
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#*The treat doesn’t have to be food. You could head out to get a manicure together.
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#*The treat doesn’t have to be food. You could head out to get a manicure together.
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#Look for ways to make her laugh. If you two have any inside jokes, now is the time to try one out. As her sister, you can probably make her laugh as well as anyone, so give it a go. Make a joke or make a silly face. Maybe it’s time to pull out that impersonation of your mother that always cracks her up.<ref>https://ift.tt/36rcpns>
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#*You could also turn on a funny show or ask if she wants to watch a silly movie.
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#*You could also turn on a funny show or ask if she wants to watch a silly movie.
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#*If she doesn’t feel like laughing, that’s okay. Just try other ways to comfort her.
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#*If she doesn’t feel like laughing, that’s okay. Just try other ways to comfort her.
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#*Ask if she wants to go on a walk. You could even just sit together on the porch with a cup of tea.
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#*Ask if she wants to go on a walk. You could even just sit together on the porch with a cup of tea.
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#Offer her a chance to calm down. If you’re dealing with a sister who’s younger than a teenager, you’ll probably need to try some other tactics. If your little sister is crying, give her the space that she needs to shake off whatever is bothering her. Suggest that she take a break or even go to her room for a little while.<ref>https://ift.tt/2qG8hk9>
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#*For example, maybe your sister is crying because she doesn’t want to do her chores. You can say, “I get it, but crying really won’t help. Why don’t you sit by yourself for a little bit, and then see if you feel up to putting the dishes away?”
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#*For example, maybe your sister is crying because she doesn’t want to do her chores. You can say, “I get it, but crying really won’t help. Why don’t you sit by yourself for a little bit, and then see if you feel up to putting the dishes away?”
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#Suggest a way to solve the problem. Kids and young adults often cry out of frustration. If you can, try to help
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#Suggest a way to solve the problem. Kids and young adults often cry out of frustration. If you can, try to help her figure out a solution to whatever is bothering her. You can offer suggestions or just jump right in and help.<ref>https://ift.tt/2qG8hk9>
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#*Maybe your 13-year-old sister is frustrated because your parents won’t let her go to a sleepover. Offer to help her have a rational discussion with them.
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#*Maybe your 13-year-old sister is frustrated because your parents won’t let her go to a sleepover. Offer to help her have a rational discussion with them.
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#Give her permission to cry it out. Kids (and adults) sometimes just need to work through their emotions. Unless your sister is pitching a fit, give her the space she needs to cry. You can stay with her or offer to give her some physical space.<ref>https://ift.tt/2qG8hk9>
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#*Say, “It’s okay. We all need to cry sometimes, so just let it out.”
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#*Say, “It’s okay. We all need to cry sometimes, so just let it out.”
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#Validate her disappointment. Let your sister know that you understand her feelings and that you think they are important. That will give her comfort and let her know that you are on her side.<ref>https://ift.tt/2LIbcQK>
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#*Say, “I totally get why you’re upset. I know how much you wanted to win that soccer game. You tried hard, and you didn’t get the payoff that you wanted.”
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#*Say, “I totally get why you’re upset. I know how much you wanted to win that soccer game. You tried hard, and you didn’t get the payoff that you wanted.”
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