When I embarked on my first wlw relationship and went to search for "queer sex toys for women," I was shocked by how sparse the results were. It shouldn't be surprising, given how the booming sexual wellness industry has long catered to the heterosexual cis binary, but somehow I was still disappointed by the limited array of dildos, which were extremely phallic-looking (which I know myself along with others find triggering or unwanted). Not to mention the strap-ons and harnesses were mostly small, tapered, and specifically for pegging, rather than vaginal penetration. There also were limited couples' sex toy options for women who preferred no penetration at all. Being in a queer couple in today's political landscape is hard enough; finding your way to great sex shouldn't be another unnecessary barrier.
In order to help you (and me, to be honest), I went digging through all the queerest crevices of the internet to find the best-of-the-best sex toys that are made for (and in a lot of cases by!) queer women. Full disclosure, most of our results were found by searching for the less inclusive "lesbian sex toys," but we want to acknowledge that we know the wlw umbrella includes a vast span of sexualities and genders, and this list is for them, too. Ahead, keep reading for the best lesbian sex toys out there, according to the queer women who love them.
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Wet For Her RockHer Mini Scissoring Vibrator
If you're just starting your lesbian sex toy search, start with sex toy retailer Wet for Her, which was designed by lesbians, for lesbians. The CEO Alice Derock says she was disappointed that the adult novelty industry "lacked non-phallic items specifically geared towards the lesbian community." So, she created a line of toys that specifically cater to queer women. We personally love this scissoring vibrator, which is perfect for vulva-to-vulva stimulation.
Reviewers say: "The strength of the vibration really surprised me and this is coming from someone who almost exclusively uses high power wands as vibrators. I highly recommend considering buying one for each of you as it made a big difference in our experience. We tried it once with just one of us wearing it and then tried it with both of us wearing one. We haven’t gone back to using just one since. The two Rockhers work great together...I have also used it while using a strap-on and hands down this is better than using a bullet vibe with a strap on." —Wet For Her Reviewer
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Wet For Her RockHer Mini Scissoring Vibrator, $, available at Wet For Her
Lovehoney Posable Rechargeable Vibrating Strapless Strap-On
The LGBTQ+ section at sex toy retailer Lovehoney is also hopping. Though most of the site is pretty het, it acknowledges the need to be as inclusive as possible, not just during Pride but all year long. As well as a gender-neutral toy section, there's also a plethora of different shaped and sized strap ons and harnesses for queer couples, who prefer penetration. We're huge fans of this strapless strap-on, which requires no other equipment (but it is compatible with Lovehoney's harness if you crave some extra support) and uses an ultra-powerful bullet to send three speeds and seven vibrations down its bendable 7-inch shaft.
Reviewers say: "It can be SO hard to find strap ons (strapless or otherwise) which don't look like penises, which is an enormous turn off for me. So when I saw this I just had to try it! When not inside the strap on, the bullet vibrations are VERY strong (like, leaping out of your hand strong) so probably not for use on its own! However this means that once inside the strap on the vibrations carry very well along the whole length and are great for both the giver and receiver. One thing I noticed was that it had quite a weight to it, which did make me wonder whether there would be issues keeping it inside me/my girlfriend during use (neither of us do kegel exercises at all). However, this turned out not to be an issue at all! The bulb inserted into the wearer tapers to a very small diameter at the entrance of the vagina, which means that your muscles naturally clench around it and keep the bulb inside. I can certainly say that this was very secure throughout use even given though I tend to be very well lubricated naturally (which has caused issues with strapless strap ons before). Also, if you need extra security, this strap on fits perfectly into the Lovehoney harness briefs." —Lovehoney Reviewer
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Lovehoney Posable Rechargeable Vibrating Strapless Strap-On, $, available at Lovehoney
Le Wand Arch Stainless Steel Double-Ended Dildo
This double-ended pleasure tool is perfectly curved to find both your G-spots when sharing. Though this dildo is a bit on the pricier side, the stainless steel is built to last and dole out orgasmic bliss again and again without burning out the motor. We particularly love this material for temperature play or underwater for an extra-sexy summer.
Reviewers say: "When it comes to G spot stimulation, it would be hard to find a dildo that delivers in the same way that the Le Wand Arch does. Made of stainless steel, this perfectly shaped dildo is enough to make anyone a believer in the G-spot orgasm. Want to take it up a notch? Use it for temperature play since the metal holds hot and cold in a way that silicone just can't." —Amanda C., Le Wand Reviewer
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Le Wand Arch, $, available at Le Wand
Dame Fin
If you're someone who leans more toward needing clitoral stimulation, a small finger vibrator is a great option. Myisha Battle, certified sex and dating coach, recommends this option from Dame for giving the clitoris attention with one hand, while allowing the other to be freed up for "other types of stimulation." Small but impactful, this is a great addition to queer sex you'll never do without again.
Reviewers say: "I used to use a larger but still small vibrator that was harder to fit in between us during sex and easy to slip out of position at inopportune moments. I think it is strong enough, it’s not a super duper powerful vibrator but most people probably don’t need that. I have powerful vibrators and never use them at full capacity so I don’t mind the limited range of this one. I love its size and unique grip. It’s definitely something to make partnered sex better." —Allison C., Dame Reviewer
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Dame Fin, $, available at Dame Products
Brief Underwear Strap-On Harness
If your preferred pleasure requires only one person enjoying penetration at a time, there's no better staple than a great harness. As well as creating unique lesbian sex toys like the RockHer, Wet For Her also has what many reviewers call the "best harness" they've used. The site has an option for creating a strap-on kit with your preferred dildo and harness, but we recommend going straight for this brief style, which boasts a 4.8 out of 5 star review. With no straps to fiddle around with and a wide range of sizes (XS-5XL!), this harness is built to fit anyone and stay secure for long-lasting pleasure. It's particularly great for beginners. If you're looking for your first harness, we highly recommend it.
Reviewers say: "The material is soft and stretchy and the waistband is heavy duty. The harness feels well-made, the ring is slightly stretchy, and there are two secret pockets inside the front and crotch to hold small vibes for the wearer! In practice, my partner and I found the ring was placed at the perfect height for holding a toy for penetrative sex — not too high, not too low. It shipped quickly in a plain opaque bag like the kind you'd receive clothing in, from a return address listed as WFH. Overall, getting and using this harness has been a very smooth and positive first experience!" —Wet For Her Reviewer
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Wet For Her Brief Underwear Strap-On Harness and Packer - Black - XS-5X, $, available at Wet For Her
Unbound Bender
Unbound Babes is a great option for those who want lesbian sex toys that are beautiful, body safe, and buzz-worthy. The Bender is the cutting-edge sexual wellness brand's double-ended, 10-speed vibrator, which can be adjusted for G-spot, clitoral, or dual-stimulation. The multifunctional vibe can satisfy both you and your partner simultaneously via 10 powerful speeds and patterns, so you can figure out what you both like together. Our pro tip? Use it separately before trying it out together to figure out what angle works best for each of you.
Reviewers say: "The Bender vibrator is an overwhelmingly powerful toy. My partner and I weren't expecting how strong it would be. It worked quickly, and it's the perfect shape for anyone. I have a tilted uterus, so sometimes toys can be uncomfortable, but the Bender's ability to be bent to fit your body, was an awesome selling point! It fits snug in between my partner and me, or it bends to hit the spot just right in solo play!" —Kat, Unbound Reviewer
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Charlotte Tilbury Matte Beauty Blush Wands in Pillow Talk Pink Pop, $, available at Charlotte Tilbury
Cute Little Fuckers Jix!
Nonbinary folks with vaginas, look no further for all your sex toy needs than the line of gender-neutral vibrators at Cute Little Fuckers. The inclusive brand was founded by and for nonbinary people in an attempt to make sex toys more accessible, and they have succeeded in spades. This dual-stimulating vibrator has pleased couples that are still in the process of figuring out how to incorporate sex toys into their routines. And they particularly love how easy it is to hold and handle while maneuvering. If penetration isn't for you, we recommend the brand's virally popular Starsi, which can nestle perfectly between two vulvas for buzz-worthy clitoral stimulation.
Reviewers say: "As an absolute beginner I found Jix and Jin wonderfully approachable. The shape and size of Jix make them very gentle and Jin makes them very easy to handle when playing solo. I also love how soft they are and how there is just enough give and firmness hit all the right spots." —Cute Little Fuckers Reviewer
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Cute Little Fuckers Jix!, $, available at Cute Little Fuckers
Blush Avant P3-5.5" Silicone Dildo
Looking for a lesbian sex toy that screams your sexuality? This silicone dildo is made with the colors of the lesbian flag for a fun way to represent your pride. It also comes in trans-specific colors and just general rainbow for whatever your identity is. Great in your hand or in your harness, this is a classic dildo you can't go wrong with.
Reviewers say: "Looks great, feels great, what more could you ask for out of a toy? The colors are super vibrant irl and it’s great to be f****d with pride <3" —Amazon Reviewer
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Blush Novelties Blush Avant P3-5.5" Silicone Dildo, $, available at Amazon
Spartacus Y-Style Tweezer Clamps
Okay, nipple clamps aren't exclusively a lesbian sex toy, but if you're a person who enjoys nipple stimulation during sex, this is a must-have. Attach this adjustable, necklace-like toy to both your nipples and clit with the aluminum and steel metal camps. It adds a little something extra to your pleasure, and we love that it easily fits all kinds of body shapes and sizes.
Reviewers say: "The added chain weight on these due to the lower third clamp is great, and the tug really heightens the sensation." —Amazon Reviewer
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SPARTACUS Y Style Adjustable Broad Tip Nipple Clamps, $, available at Amazon
Wet For Her Double Dildo
Vibrating Four Black 4.7 Inch
This works when one partner inserts the "bulb into their vagina, and then closes her legs. Thanks to your PC muscles (your pelvic floor), it stays in place and you'll be ready to penetrate your partner.Reviewers say: Although some say there's a "learning curve" to using the device, others say it's a great fit, especially if you're looking for a smaller double dildo.
Wet For Her DOUBLE DILDO VIBRATING FOUR BLACK SMALL SIZE 4.7 INCH, $, available at Wet For Her
Ann Summers Moregasm+ Rabbit Ears
The "ears" are made of soft silicon, so this toy is all about adjusting pressure to your — and your partner's — liking. Can you say: "clitoral stimulation?"Reviewers say: "My top priority in a clitoral vibe is that it should be easy, comfortable and effective to use during sex," one review says. "It’s taken me a while to type up this review because honestly, this toy ticked all the boxes for me."
Ann Summers Moregasm+ Rabbit Ears, $, available at Ann Summers
Vibratex Mystic Wand Silicone
Sex therapist and clinical psychologist Ursula Ofman, Psy.D recommends this small, waterproof "Mystic Wand" on her website.Reviewers say: "This is my favorite toy I own. It can be very powerful, for anyone looking for a strong but reasonably sized vibrator. It's a great size for play with a partner or individual."
Vibratex Vibratex Mystic Wand Silicone, Pink/White, $, available at Amazon
Lelo SONA Cruise Cerise
This vibe's sonic waves stimulate the clit without direct contact, so it won't get uncomfortable from stimulation if you're going for a long day of multiple orgasms.Reviewers say: "My partner got this for me and I can't say thank you enough. It is phenomenal. There are so many combinations and it doesn't get boring. Simply amazing orgasms."
SONA SONA™ Cruise, $, available at LELO
'Share Vibe' Couples Sex Toys
This waterproof, silicon is described as "the strap-on-less strap on."Reviewers say: "I highly recommend this for any couple looking to spice up there life... There are no issues with it staying in either."
Fun Factory Fun Factory Adult Share Vibe Couples Sex Toy, $, available at Amazon
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